It’s February, and Valentine’s Day is upon us! Now depending on which side of the fence you find yourself on this year, you may be feeling high with anticipation, trepidation, or worse degradation. Wherever you fall on the spectrum I want to encourage you to focus on what is arguably the most important relationship that you have, the one you’re in with yourself. That’s right, you are in a relationship with yourself and just like with all relationships this one requires your time, attention, and action. In fact, it is most deserving because it is the root from which all of your other relationships grow and because we know that relationships of all types create the foundation for success it is time to be intentional about nurturing your own.

When was the last time you really spent time thinking about yourself as a whole person, your interests and values? How intentional have you been about planning for yourself? I don’t mean those goals or resolutions you set a few weeks back that you made for your personal representative, you know the person that shows up for the world and takes action in alignment with expectations that others or perhaps you yourself have set; the person who is checking off all the right boxes to make you feel successful. I’m talking about the real you, the one behind the veil that is pure and authentic. As in all relationships, every now and then we need to spend some time with our true selves and put in some real effort to connect. Do you really know who you are, what is important to you and the reasons why? Do you feel connected to these values? Have they changed? Are they real or aspired values? Do you even know the difference? These are all questions we should explore with ourselves as they are ever changing and evolving. Having clarity on who you are, what you do and why you do it will inevitably strengthen your sense of self and your growing awareness of your personal worth and value will make your output more positively impactful for others.

As you prepare to shower those whom you hold dear with love and adoration this Valentine’s Day or lament over not yet having someone special to share the day with, be reminded that one of your greatest responsibilities is to love yourself wholly and unapologetically. The first step is to get to know you better than you know anyone else. The road may be bumpy but it’s a journey worth taking. Be gentle with yourself and always be kind. The world will thank you for it.