This year 2017, let’s just say it was very humbling. This past year was filled with many lows and several unforgettable highs. It was filled with tears, sacrifices, lack of sleep, final stages on a journey, the launch of a new journey, lack of sleep, graduation, new relationships and letting go of old relationships. Did I forget to mention lack of sleep?

This year filled me with growth that I will continue to carry with me for the rest of my days. In the beginning of this year, I was just a senior in college wondering what my next steps were. I graduated, not during the time I wanted, but realized I still finished and earned my degree. Remembering I am one of the few people in my family to have a college education. Midway through the year, I became an intern and it changed my life. I didn’t land a job right after graduation but I landed an internship that challenges me, and gained two mentors that want and demand the best for and from me. Ending the year, I walk away more mentally charged and grateful than I ever have.

2017 did not bring me the answers and results I wanted. Instead, I got what I needed.  I am learning how to view life through a different set of lenses.  When things are difficult, instead of saying “why me” I ask myself “what is this teaching me.” Changing the question helped me view every situation, relationship and step on this crazy little thing called life very different. Asking myself “why me”, makes the situation more negative. It made me feel lonely, as if I am the only person to ever experience what was happening at that time. Asking myself “what is this teaching me” is more positive and brings stronger results. Thinking positively helps me view every “no” or “not now” moment differently.  Thinking positively reminds me there is a lesson in everything we do. “No” moments show me I am not ready for the next step and prepares me for the path that lies ahead.

Rather than viewing your glass as half full or half empty, take a moment to be grateful something is in your glass. When you view things differently and more positively, life seems to change around you. You get what you give. Give more positivity and you will receive it in return. Look for lessons and blessings in everything you do, it will help you on your journey wherever you are in life. Take time to reflect to every “no”. There is a reason behind every no. Find the reason and develop a strategy to turn that no into a “yes”. Do not take every setback as a obstacle for achieving your goal. Use it as a compass to point you in the right direction. Give yourself permission to make mistakes, they will help you grow.

My goal for 2018 is to fill my glass with positive thoughts (as much as I can at least), growth opportunities, and new and challenging experiences. So as you say goodbye to 2017 and hello to the New Year … what will be in glass?