Hey ladies! Being a working mom is no easy task. We are asked to juggle quite a bit. What I like to do though is help people figure out how to juggle those tasks on their terms and in ways that make them feel great about who they are. Here are five tips for starting the journey towards balance and fulfillment for moms who work:

Prioritize Your Values: What is important to you? What do you value most and does your life reflect that? If the answer is no, then those are likely not your values but instead your value ideals. Knowing the difference is important because we prioritize what we value and what we value shapes the lifestyle that we live. If you feel like you’re constantly running a rat race, it’s likely because you value busyness (to some degree) and juggling over balance. Once you have examined your values vs. your value ideals, you are positioned to make decisions that will help you align your values with a lifestyle that you love.

Make a Decision: You must decide to honor what matters to you most and do that wholeheartedly. There is tremendous peace that comes with this step alone. But understand that this looks different for different people and you should learn to be okay with whatever that looks like for you. When I decided that daycare wasn’t an option for my family and that I wanted to care for them on a full-time basis, I found a sense of clarity because I was no longer trying to force my values into an unworkable situation. It wasn’t a popular choice for someone with my credentials (as I was often reminded) but that clarity allowed me the space and mental capacity to come up with a plan that would allow me to honor my decision and design a life that I love. For me, this has meant finding a lane that allows me to own my time (a critical asset for moms), spend quality time with my littles daily, and engage in meaningful work that I enjoy. The peace is unspeakable.

Choose your perspective: Your decision may not be an easy one and it may require tremendous sacrifice. But understand that life and its circumstances are fluid and ever-changing. Find the good in your decision and make it your focal point. The sacrifices you make are only for a time and will one day pass. Remember your why and choose to feel good about it. Don’t be afraid to make changes and adjustments along the way. As I said life is fluid and what worked at one point may not work at another. One of my guiding principles is to do things for as long as they make sense and when they stop making sense, stop doing them. Simple.

Manage your time: This one is pretty self-explanatory but can’t be stated enough. Regimens and routines can do a lot to bring balance and balance is important because between work and home, it’s critical that you find and prioritize space that is reserved for you and your rejuvenation. You get to decide what that looks like. A word of caution, though. Don’t get too caught up in keeping a schedule. This is a sure fast way to lose your peace and miss out on the joy of the unexpected. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve foolishly tried to force bedtimes, wasting energy, time and tears trying to stick to a schedule in anticipation of that “me” time. I have to remember that although little, they are people too and some days the schedule or routine doesn’t work for them. Roll with it. It’s easier on everyone. Plus, you’re likely to create some cool memories when you deviate from the status quo. The same goes for work. There are times when enough is enough and you have to unplug, pack it up and go.  In my dad’s words “tell them to get back with you.” It’ll be there tomorrow. Protect your peace.

Relax: There is tremendous pressure to have it all together. Between finding the perfect school, serving a completely balanced organic diet, arranging the perfect playdates and incorporating coconut oil into every facet of life, all while trying to drive impact for a company or a business of your own while appearing to be on top of your game can be nothing short of exhausting. Look at how long that sentence was! But here’s the thing, you aren’t in it alone. God has graced you with every single thing that you need for this moment in time. Rest in that. God’s got you and He’s likely placed some people in your life that ‘got’ you too. Rely on them. Remember to enjoy the life you have right now. We put so much emphasis on preparation for tomorrow that we forget to engage in today. Don’t make that mistake.

At the end of the day, you’re probably doing great and if you feel like you aren’t you have the power to change that. The main thing is to find out what works for you, do that, be okay with it, and exercise your faith. Block out the noise of what others think about your journey and enjoy the ride. After all, success is liking who you are, what you do, and the way you do it. Hats off to you, momma!

Jihada Garrett is a working mommy who serves as a Senior Account Director for Herd Strategies and a life coach with J. Garrett, llc.